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Do you "have to" or "want to"?

Do believe you would be happier if you would accomplish your goal? 

Are you focused more on what is missing in your life rather than what you already have?

Many of us conditioned to search for what is missing in our lives. We are comparing what we have, with what others have or what we could have instead. 

This goes back to our early days as humans. We were on a survival mindset and focusing on what was missing, like shelter, food, or some other things. We were associating those we do not have as a threat to our survival. Having that mindset was helping us stay alive at that time. Coming back to our time now, even though there is no real threat, we are living with these beliefs in our subconscious mind. We compare our physical features, financial incomes, successes in our lives with others, and constantly look for a gap to close. If we are not matching other people’s level in any aspect of life, we consider that as a threat. Thinking that we are not beautiful enough, not having more money in our bank account, not having a better career track than others, and consequently in our subconscious mind, we believe that we are in danger. But that is not true and we know that.

The reflection of that subconscious belief is quite interesting. When you have the thought that “you will not be complete if you do not get what is missing in your life” this will create a feeling of insecurity. This is a negative feeling but it has nothing to do with what you have or not. You are feeling that feeling only because of your thoughts. 

How do we know that? 

Even when you will achieve your goals, close the gap, and get what is missing in your life, you are going to have the same feeling of insecurity. It is because your thoughts are still in their original form and say you are still not complete, you still need to achieve this or that. The truth is you have everything you need to feel complete but only because of your thoughts you are creating the feeling of insecurity. 

Gratitude is a feeling that gives us a perspective to create happiness regardless of what we believe is missing in our life. When you feel gratitude, your thought becomes “I am grateful with what I have” and that does not mean that you do not set goals to achieve more in your life. 

Gratitude makes you set goals and achieve them from a positive mindset. You know that you can feel gratitude regardless of your circumstances and you are totally ok and complete without the things that you thought you would need. Therefore when you are setting a goal for yourself with gratitude, you say “I want to achieve my goal” instead of “I have to achieve my goal”. 

How about your goals, your challenging targets? 

Do you have to achieve them or you want to?

Let me know your thoughts on this in the comment section below and share this post with people you believe they will benefit from.

Have a great day!

Ferruh Tumer

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